Friday, June 13, 2008

The Gift


Floods, boy scouts, earthquakes, "baby mamas," boy things sure do look bleak. Let's brighten things up with a wonderful Father's Day gift idea:

Charla Muller promised her husband "the gift," as she refers to their year of passion, for his 40th birthday--a particularly inspired alternative to, say, an expensive watch:

"This is something no one else would give him," she said in an interview. "It didn't cost a lot of money. It was highly memorable. It met all the criteria for a really great gift."


Brad was less than fully enthusiastic, mostly because, he says, his wife often has big ideas and poor follow-through. After all, she hadn't been especially generous in that department since they'd had their two children. He paid closer attention when he realized that she was serious.

But as with any marathon, the couples hit a few bumps along the way. First came fatigue:

The Mullers, or at least Charla, hit a wall somewhere around the 10th month. In her book, she describes the gift then as "my stupid idea" and "a hidden cross to bear."

Then, for the Browns, came vertigo:

And were it not for [Annie Brown's] competitive zeal, their streak might have died well short of 100 days. Annie even forced her husband to have sex during a bout of vertigo. "I'm not a quitter,' she said. "The night he had vertigo, I said, 'I'm sorry, guy, but you've got to keep going.' "

And, yes, there was even boredom:

Doug said in an interview that on their 101st day, he felt "sort of like you had some long-forgotten appointment to hear some tax attorney talk about estate planning."


After that, he said, "I think we didn't do it for a month."

But, in the end, it was all about the lessons learned:


Charla Muller and Annie Brown both talk about how mandated physical intimacy created more emotional intimacy. "It required a daily kindness and forgiveness, and not being cranky or snarky, that I don't think either of us had experienced before," Charla said.


Annie said that she and her husband reached a place in their relationship that they have seldom approached since. "It was just this intense closeness," she said. "We were so aware of wherever the other person was mentally and emotionally and physically."

You can read more on the Mullers' remarkable adventure here.

19 comments:

defense lawyer-for-the-princess1 said...

Excellent post SFL!

honest lawyer said...

Great idea SFL! Would you mind mentioning it to my wife?

Pearl-lovers-of-the-Princess said...

I receive the same gift every year from my wife and kids. A new tie and a new wallet.

South Florida Lawyers said...

7:35, just point her here. You'll need Bolero on autoplay.

newbie-who-likes-the-princess said...

I don't have a wife or any children but I remember as a kid I use to get my dad ties every Father's Day.

SFL, what does your answer mean?

fake Chris Carver said...

Newb, SFL is saying to send her the link to this blog. If you don't get Bolero you are beyond help.

newbie-who-likes-the-princess said...

I'm still fresh to this blog so can anyone out there help a newbie out?

defense lawyer-for-the-princess2 said...

My kid made me a cut out tie from construction paper last year. The wife bought me a new set of power tools. This year I left a couple of car brochures laying around.

Newbie, you have so much to learn.

dreaming-of-the-princess said...

So is anyone going to answer Newbies' question or should we keep him in suspense?

Anonymous said...

Newbie, wanna know something about the princess? From what I heard her skills are equivalent to XXX-rated actresses.

defense lawyer-for-the-princess3 said...

9:41,
I'm going to take a wild stab in the dark and guess who you are.
A lawyer who failed the bar exam one too many times and when you finally did you couldn't get hired by any firm. When you're not standing out on the street chasing ambulances every chance you get you're sitting in your crappy office emailing the princess who doesn't reply back?

That's not an excuse for your vile comment. Show a little decency!

las-hadas-lovers-for-the-princess said...

I've emailed the princess many times and she has yet to reply and I don't go around leaving comments such as the ass of a lawyer who did at 9:41.

friend-of-SFL said...

9:41, you are an embarrassment. I sincerely hope you are not an attorney, as you make us all look stupider by your mere presence among here.

Anonymous said...

9:56, don't shoot the messenger. I'm only repeating what I heard.

defense lawyer-for-the-princess4 said...

9:45, good one!

10:00, keep your garbage comments about the princess to yourself!

Anonymous said...

"just repeating what I heard"- LAME

defense lawyer-for-the-princess5 said...

9:41/10:00, Yeah people are talking about the princess, I've heard some things and maybe I too am guilty for listening to it but at least I have the decency to give the princess the respect she clearly deserves.

Dylan-ranters-for-the-Princess-2 said...

11:12,
AGREED!

newbie-who-likes-the-princess said...

9:41, 10am, Whether it is true or not you lack class and morals for repeating something like that.

Are any of you attorneys not going to help me out about the Bolero reference?