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Freedom of Speech, Watch What You Say

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Wow, what a weekend! I can now get gay married in Arkansas, the NFL has its first openly gay player, and a bearded drag queen who looks a lot like Jesus is now the winner of Eurovision. If there was any doubt that my people are on the march let this put it to rest.

So what is a homophobe to do in this epoch of gay liberation? Some good advice might be to keep your mouth shut.
The Dolphins swiftly and publicly reprimanded Don Jones late Sunday for his Twitter remarks critical of Michael Sam, fining him and barring him from team activities until he undergoes sensitivity training. 
In a statement released by the team, Jones apologized for tweeting “omg” and “horrible” after seeing Sam sharing a celebratory kiss with his partner on national TV Saturday evening. Sam had just been drafted by the St. Louis Rams in the seventh round, becoming the first openly gay player selected by an NFL team. 
“I want to apologize to Michael Sam for the inappropriate comments that I made last night on social media,” said Jones, a backup defensive back. “I take full responsibility for them, and I regret that these tweets took away from his draft moment.

Dan Savage makes the point quite well here.
"The real story here is that we are rapidly approaching the tipping point that I've been talking and writing about for years. Once upon a time white people used to be able to go on TV and say the most racist shit imaginable (argue against legal interracial marriage, argue in favor of segregation) and keep their jobs and be invited back on TV to say that shit a second time. Then one day you couldn't say that shit (not on TV, at least) and keep your job and be invited back to say that shit again. Opinions that used to be considered 'respectable' were suddenly toxic career enders. We are rapidly reaching the same tipping point on LGBT issues. You can believe whatever you want, but you have to be careful when and how you express your anti-gay animus. Because it could cost you."
This isn't specific to LGBT issues as Los Angeles Clippers owner Donald Sterling can attest to. We live in a world where virtually everyone walks around with a miniature recording studio with global up-link in their pockets. Anything you say or do anywhere can be recorded and given immortality on the internet. This gives Bill Maher, who I am usually on the same page with, the sadz.

The genie isn't going back in the bottle. People can record you and so people will record you. In an age where real privacy is a thing of the past the best way to prevent yourself from being exposed as a racist or a homophobe is not to be one. Equality for all people, it's not hard.

That said we should all be aware that we are in a period of transition. If we are still in a period of transition on race relations then we are certain to be in one on LGBT issues for the foreseeable future. When people like Sterling and Jones make the mistake of playing by the old rules and not the new ones, and those people honestly apologize and repent, the right thing for us to do is accept those apologies and move on. That is how the righteous behave.


  1. I don't want to see him making out with a girl or a guy - why are you guys so in your face about it?

  2. The Michael Sam kiss video made my weekend.

  3. "why are you guys so in your face about it?" A more timid way of asking why we just don't stay in the fucking closet so you don't have to be grossed out.

  4. I agree w u GW, but I also see Bill's point. A risk is that comments an otherwise "good" person makes in a private-ish setting may be twisted publicly to make them appear bigoted or worse. Anyone who sang along with Biggie Smalls, Tupac or DMX in their car, apartment or nightclub in the 1990's could then be accused of being racist, sexist, antigay, etc. if only the pocket video/audio records of today existed back then. Sure this would have exposed a few genuine mysogynysts and bigots, but more likely it would have simply miscast or embarrassed a lot of people with questionable judgment and/or ignorance, but certainly no ill feelings toward other members of mankind.

  5. @10:30

    Cool, just remove all the heterosexual images from movies, ads, books, TV, and magazines and we'll call it even.

  6. @10:41
    Bill Maher doesn't want to see people destroyed over stupid private comments and neither do I. I just listened to an interview with Sterling this morning and he sounded genuinely remorseful.

    The technological reality is that there are now recording devices everywhere. I don't like that fact but facts don't care much about our opinions.

    Since we can't change the prevalence of recording devices let's change how we deal with people who make errors like this and by that I mean forgive them.

  7. The Dolphins passed on Sam and picked a nobody from nowhere instead.

  8. If you are grossed out by two dudes kissing then it is likely that on some level you're turned on by it. What is really grossing you out is your own arousal.

  9. can i be both for gay rights and think michael sam kissing his boyfriend is disgusting?

  10. @10:53

    Sure! But you might want to have a chat with your shrink about that.

    I for one am thrilled that the first gay kiss on ESPN was a gay interracial kiss. Those blacks aren't just dating your daughters, they're dating your sons too!

    Double bigot hate overload!

  11. Who cares? I didn't say I am grossed out....who cares...who cares...who cares?

  12. hilarious how gay guys think all heterosexual people who are disturbed by images of gay sex are closeted. whatever gets you through the day.

  13. @11:06

    The quantity of requests for Michael Sam Rams jerseys are 'ridiculous' according to media outlets. I guess that's because a lot of people care, even if you don't.

    PS. The best way to show that you really don't care is not to comment.

  14. I love the way you guys turn into cheer leaders first time a gay dude comes out. You think you are so special? How depressing it will be when you learn that you are simply completely normal and accepted by society, like me.

  15. @11:59

    Depressing? No honey, that's what I'm fighting for.

  16. Wise Gdwhacker is wise.

  17. Props to Godwhacker for the Ice-T song. I had completely forgotten about that song, but loved it back in the day. Disturbing cover art, though.

  18. True fact: I* have been #1 on Wu-Tang Clan.

    *my human identity

  19. You must remember this
    A kiss is just a kiss.

  20. GW, is this discrimination? He wasn't even kissing!

  21. Very interesting 5:02. I think that deserves a whole post.

  22. I hope that's cake on their faces.

  23. It was a great moment but I think you guys and gals are missing the real point here: Michael Sam just wanted everyone to know that he too likes swimmers' bodies.


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